Monday, October 15, 2018

Going Your Separate Ways: 5 Strategies to Cope with Divorce and Live a Happy Life


Divorce can be difficult to deal with. This can be the case even when you were the party who filed to end your marriage. There are lots of emotions involved, property to wrangle over and sometimes children who get hurt. There may also be social fallout since friends tend to side with one spouse. The good news is that there are ways to cope with the difficulties and be happy once again.



Take care of yourself

Once you engage a divorce attorney to handle your legal affairs, try to see after your physical and mental health. Instead of sitting at home and worrying about the future, get active. Exercise, eat properly and take time to relax. Keep up your usual spa, nail or hair appointments since looking fabulous can help you to feel better.  If you’re religious or spiritual, see how your faith and beliefs can help you to heal.

Do the things you love or always wanted to try

Maybe you really like hiking but your former spouse was never interested. Maybe there’s a class you always wanted to take. Whatever it is, now is the time to explore your interests, meet new people and learn a little more about yourself. It will take some time to adjust to your new life. Why not begin by investing in yourself? Join service clubs or volunteer in the community. These things will help you to focus on the present and the future instead of revisiting the past.

Talk to a therapist

You may have many conflicting thoughts and feelings. Your friends or loved ones may mean well but they aren’t always the best people to help you during this period. They are far from unbiased and sometimes you need the advice and support of a neutral party. Consider seeing a therapist to help you work through your problems.  You may also benefit from joining a support group. Talking to others who have also been through a divorce can be very helpful.

Work through the practical things

Divorce doesn’t only bring about emotional changes. Chores around the house still need to be taken care of and bills have to be paid. You may need to change your address or your last name with utility companies and financial institutions.  These can all be stressful, especially when you think about them all at the same time. You will need to prioritize and handle the most urgent matters first. Ask for help if you need it.

Avoid dangerous or vindictive behaviors

You may be lonely, but you shouldn’t jump right into a new relationship. Give yourself time to grieve and heal. You may be angry, but you should call your ex and leave angry messages or confront their new partner. Don’t seek revenge against them. Resist the temptation to turn to unhealthy foods, drugs or alcohol. You should also avoid making any big decisions until you calm down and you’re thinking clearly.

Divorce can be very upsetting. Draw on all the help you to make the process more bearable. It may take time but you can return to living a happy life.

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