Friday, December 16, 2016

Relationship on the Rocks? What You Can Do Next

Not every relationship lasts forever. Some people are lucky enough to find a life partner, but others find that their relationship isn't meant to be. However, knowing when it's time to throw in the towel isn't always easy. If your relationship is on the rocks, it doesn't always mean that it's time to call it a day. There are several things you should consider if you're having relationship problems. You might be able to get things back on track if both you and your partner are willing to work at it. If you're having trouble, here are some actions to take to work out what to do.

Making Time to Talk

When was the last time the two of you sat down and had a serious conversation? Many couples get into a cycle when they only air their issues during arguments. Both of you might have legitimate issues to discuss, but they only come out in the heat of the moment. Then they're brushed to the side until the next time you argue. If you want to address things properly, you need to make the time to talk about them. It should be when you're both feeling calm and ready to listen to each other.


Attending Couples Counseling

Talking about your problems can sometimes be difficult. You might feel like your partner isn't listening to you and they may accuse you of the same. Or perhaps you feel like you're being unfairly criticized. If you're struggling to communicate openly with each other, you should consider couple's counseling. A relationship counselor can help you to listen to each other and understand each other's point of view. They might also give you homework so that you're able to work on your issues at home too. Having a third person's input can be hugely beneficial if you're finding it hard to understand each other.

Working on Your Problems

Once you've identified your issues, you have to put in an effort to address them. Of course, this is usually a team effort. Sometimes, it might be that one of you has dropped the ball while the other holds up the relationship. But in many situations, both of you have stopped looking out for each other's needs as much as you used to. Just like making time to talk, you also need to ensure you have time to work on your problems. This might involve anything from talking to going on dates.

Is It Time to Split?

Sometimes, it is time to admit to yourself and to your partner that your relationship should end. Even if you're the one to call time, it can still be an extremely difficult and upsetting thing to do. But the end of your relationship doesn't have to be full of bitterness and anger. Many couples benefit from divorce mediation to help them work through the end of their marriage. If you're both willing to, you can reduce the stress that comes with the end of a relationship.

If your relationship is in trouble, it doesn't have to be the end. But if it is, ending it doesn't have to be messy.

xoxo,
Therese
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